ALWAYS one step ahead...

Make Her Happy, Now !!

2009-03-03T16:50:00.000-08:00

Hello guys.
This tips is for men all around the world.
So, read it guys !

When making a relationship, it is important to make her happy. Well, to make our beloved ones happy, there is many ways, such as give her a nice gift, kiss her romantically, etc. And sex, is one of the best way to make her very very happy.

But sometimes, not all man can make her partner happy in their sex life. Many man cant hold long enough until their partner reach orgasm. Well, that's the problem. And it need to solved, if you want to keep your relationship with your partner, or even make it better.

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Tips for Women

2008-07-11T18:50:00.001-07:00

Hello girlssssss !!!!!!!
what's up ??
hope you all fine.
this time i want to give some tips for women.
yeah, just look at the title.

the author is Mina Groat.
this is a great tips for woman.
just read and you know it.
for man who read this, consider it as a bonus experience from Mina.

ok, let's get started !!

The life is not over if he has left you, and as they say if a man chooses another women, it is difficult to say who is lucky. Do not fall into despair. He is not the first and he is not going to be the last. You just have to go through it. If you really sees that your relationship is over or that there is no sense to continue it, try to through him out of your mind. Do not call him; do not visit the places where he could be. There is no step back. Delete all his messages and e-mails, take away all his presents and pictures, you will come back to them when you recover. Do not sit along at home and cry, go to visit your friends, but not on the drink parties, as sometimes women are trying to drink alcohol a lot in order to forget the second half, but it only becomes worth. By the way, the women's alcoholism is almost impossible to treat. Try to change your appearance. Go to the spa salon and to the hairdresser. Change your color of hair, change your style of cloth, it will obviously help. Do not blame yourself that you are guilty for he has left you. It is nonsense. If he failed to value you, you do not need him at all.

ooohhhh....
so that's the way they thinking....

well, good point of view from Mina....
i like her article.....

how about you guys ??
share your comment.....

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Help for Men

2008-07-06T16:46:00.000-07:00

HEEYYYYYY......
what's up guys ??
hope you all fine.

this time, my blog is about help for men.
the author is Octavio Johnson.
REMEMBER :
this is specially for men who can't control his broken heart.
if there is a girl or woman read this, consider it as a bonus to understanding your partner.

well, let's get started !!

The breaking up has become a common thing in the modern society. However, the men really suffer from it twice more than the women do. For most of them with the leave of the girlfriends, the life is over. It is just silly to behave in such a way! Hey, dear gentlemen! Try to remember that you are men and that to cry is the privilege of women! If you want to make her back, do not show that you are suffering! You are the most powerful gender on the planet, so behave yourself in a proper way! Do not try to come back her with the help of such words that you can not live without her. It will not work! Make her to be the first who is sorry because of your breaking. Think about your positive features and advantages and increase your self-confidence! Consider yourself to be the best man in the world! Show her, whom she has lost. And believe me, after that she will run to you and will begging you to fix your relationship. Nevertheless, be patient. Even if you want to hug her immediately, pretend that you are still thinking whether you want her to come back or not. After that, she will perfectly behave herself! Good luck!

Well guys, is it working ??
yeah, the main thing is Mr. Johnson want you guys to be tough and solid...

ok, that's from me today.
see ya in my next blog !!

The Waves of Pain that Depression Causes

2008-07-03T02:49:00.000-07:00

Hello....!!!!!!

it's been awhile....
how are you all today ??

today's title is above, as you can see....
the author is Travis Knight.

Let's get started !!

I have witnessed hopelessness fall on a mans house like a ton of bricks. It almost squeezed the last ounce of joy from his very soul. It continued to squeeze him until his demons convinced him he did not deserve to breathe. He stayed in his bed day after day knowing that physical nourishment would only prolong his agony and prevent his inevitable death. He asked himself if his pain was caused by his own recklessness, or that of another, but at the time he felt so hopeless, that it did not really matter. His sense of logic eluded him while these demons all gathered to shame him to death.

He thought of many ways to relieve his pain, but there was a small piece of sanity that remained. He held on to this little piece of hope just long enough for his Sustainer to chase those clouds of doom away.

When he awakened from the intense pain, the spirit of Truth explained to him, who, why, and what was behind it all. It was then he was relieved he did not heed the advisement of those who had rallied to agonize him to death.

If you knew him from the past you would not recognize him today. I remember him well, as this recreated spirit is now sharing his nightmare with you.

Depression: The act of depressing or the state of being depressed. Low spirits, feeling moody or blue;

Psychiatry), a lowering of vital powers, melancholy, especially; psychopathic melancholy leading to mental disorder. (Funk & Wagnall's, New Comprehensive International Dictionary).

One fourth of all women have a major bout with depression at sometime in their lives, but sometimes the symptoms are so masked in illness, that they don't realize that depression is causing the problem.

Family physician's hear complaints of headaches, backaches, or the blahs, and often patients get undiagnosed because they remain unaware that there problem could be related to a mood disorder. (Woman's Encyclopedia of Health & Emotional Healing, Page 65).

It appears that addiction to alcohol and/or other drugs often masks an underlying depression. There is much research to conclude there is a link between addiction and depression. If left untreated, depression can cause a downward spiral leading to severe health problems, especially suicide.

Have you, too, begun to feel that your life it just not worth the hassle?

Do you feel like there is a cloud of pending doom hanging over your head, causing you to make choices that are not in your best interest, or just feel it does not matter any longer?

We have discovered possible causes and cures that I feel I must share with you.

Having been given the opportunity to work with the homeless population, with alcohol and other drug abusers, Iâ€™ve had opportunity to see first hand the signs and symptoms related to depression. Over these last years I have witnessed a major increase in those effected by this and other related illness.

I have further witnessed people who have taken synthetic drugs to counteract this illness, and after a few weeks they do seem more in control of their emotions, however soon after, I have begun to notice that the spirit that once lived in their eyes seems to disappear.

In a world filled with uncertainty, sickness, death, relationships crumbling, jobs being down sized, fathers and mothers leaving one another to seek after their identities, it is no wonder the world is in such disarray.

Without going so much into the spiritual causes of this disarray that is sweeping the land, one must take into consideration the hostility of environment. Never before has man created so many non-organic impurities.

Radio towers are admitting microwaves, micro wave ovens in our homes, cell phones using micro wave technologies, chemicals are even being used to control pests on our farm lands, and some even claim there are factions of an underworld government spraying chem trails above our heads in order to destroy our immune systems.

Why, it is no wonder most of us are a mess!!!

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How To Make Many Friends Easily

2008-06-25T03:02:00.000-07:00

Hello....

what's up people ?
once again, welcome to my blog....

this time, the topic about how to make many friends easily...

the author is Ivan Campuzano...
mmm....
having many friends is one of my priority...

well, let's get started !!

How to make many friends easily..

With every goal you have in life, people will always be a critical part of it. How fast you reach your goals depends on how well you deal with people and the level of influence you have on them. In order to really influence people you must become a person who is likable. How do you become likable? You must have a sincere interest in other people. Every person on this earth wants to feel important, so you need to treat everyone with the up most importance, because they deserve it. Remember no one is better than you and you are not better than anyone, we are all human beings who deserve the same amount of respect.

Becoming Likable:

Setting the Stage

Your goal in meeting people should be to consciously be the first to initiate and set the stage for conversation. Most people are hesitant to be the first, don’t be like most people step out of your comfort zone. I know that if you are a shy person that this can be one of the hardest things for you to do, but the more you do it, the more you condition your self for it to become second nature. As a small kid I used to be really shy but I noticed that the kids that where outgoing tended to be the happier kids so I began to step out of my comfort zone and now I feel I can walk up to almost anyone. This is going to take time; things don’t happen over night but don’t let this discourage you. Many people feel that for you to become proficient in something takes around five years. Don’t waste anytime, start today and each day after that will get easier. Each different experience will later serve as a reference to remind you, that you can approach almost anyone. By being the first to initiate conversation you also automatically have a certain degree of control, you are able to draw people into your own rhythms. Have you ever noticed how persuasive people are able to seduce you to their ways, dictating your body language and basically synchronizing it to theirs? This is because people naturally imitate other people as a way of communicating with the other person. So if you are the first you get to decide what angle to approach. So if the person you are approaching appears sad, approach them with a big confident smile. Odds are they will slowly begin to smile; you will automatically change their mood. Now you will have a better chance of having a better conversation.

In setting the stage you will need to train your self to pick up any subtle signals that the person you are approaching is giving off. With time you will be able to sum up a person in a blink of an eye and from what your subconscious catches use it help you set the stage. This will require you to have an open mind and immerse your self in as many different worlds/cultures as possible. That’s why I never limit my self to one particular set of friends. I have friends from all sorts of backgrounds. I have friends who are skaters, basketball players, artists, musicians, writers, etc. By having so many friends with diverse interests I quickly learn about their worlds. By knowing what kind of stage to set up you will know how to get the other person to think very highly of you. For example by being observant you will catch the subtleties in the way a person appears to be (The way he is dressed, body language, tone of voice, language, etc.) which will help you to imagine placing your self in there shoes. By really imagining what being that person is like it will give you a good idea of how he/she is feeling. This in turn helps you get a better idea of what appproach to use when trying to communicate effectively with them. When I am able to pick up persons subtleties I will know what topics, questions, and general things that appeal to them which gives me information to work with in the process of winning that person as a friend. Like if know this person is really passionate about cars, I will ask a question with the minimum knowledge I have about something that he knows or thinks he knows a lot about.

Now you set the stage for Mike who will love to tell me exactly why the Mitsubishi EVO is better. When someone is knowledgeable about something it’s in their nature to tell you because it is one more opportunity for them to show how great or smart they are. You have to cater to their ego and never test or contradict their ideas, because their ego will not accept someone who is supposed to know less tell them they are possibly wrong. If I would have told him that I heard that the Subaru WRX is better, we would have just gotten in an argument that he would not have backed out of. But I didn’t and now they will love me for it, because I was taking interest into what he enjoys.

Body Language

Whenever you approach someone for the very first time your body language will do most of the talking and the other person will immediately have a first impression of you. So you must always be aware that whatever you say your body is also in agreement. If you say one thing and your body says the opposite you will come out as someone fake. We have all seen the girl that walks up to another girl and says “I’m so happy to see you…how you been?....you look so good…” but their body language is saying “what are you doing here….I’m not really listening to what your saying” this is easily seen and can be one of the rudest things you can do in trying to make new friends. Always approach someone with open gestures and a smile. If you approach someone with crossed arms, this will automatically make the other person defensive and question your motives. Approach them with open arms and a gentle smile, smiling is infectious if the other person has a stern look on their face the moment youapproach them with a smile you will gradually notice that they will smile too. This usually sets it up for a good conversation because both people are in good moods. Try this - if you’re in a neutral mood right now, put a big smile on your face for no reason if you pay attention you can feel your body changing and your mood immediately start to change. People who are in good moods will place a lot more importance to what you have to say.

Questions and Listening

Your next goal is to sincerely try to find out as much as you can about the person. Ask quality questions; find out what is important to the person, goals, beliefs, interests, etc. The key is to be sincere so the person feels comfortable and is more likely to open up. Try to have a calm demeanor refrain from being overly eager as this might scare the person. You must be able to match the mood of the person. If the person is excited to tell you a story you must become excited as well. If the person is telling you a sad story you must show sincere empathy. Be open minded and really listen to the person.

Listening: Try to listen at least twice as much as you talk. Listening requires more than just pretending to listen or simply hearing a person talk. Listening and hearing are two completely different things and the person can tell if you’re really listening to them, or simply hearing them speak. Being a good listener is a skill, you must become an active listener. Remember this is all about the other person, who cares if you don’t get to talk about your self. In the end the other person will love you for it. They will tell their friends

“Man I really enjoyed talking to that person”….why is that? Was he a very interesting person? “You know what…I really don’t know why…I really don’t know much about him”

This shouldn’t bother you because in the end you greatly benefited from the situation as well. If you’re an effective listener you will gain a better understanding of that person’s thoughts, perspectives, feelings and actions. You have to remember that most people would rather talk than listen, but most of the time this person is not very influential. Take this as an opportunity to become more persuasive and influential.

Sometimes the problem with most people is that listening to them doesn’t have much value. They feel that in order to get people to like them they must do a great deal of the talking. Think about that for a minute, how do you like it when another person is talking so much that when you try and say something they still keep talking. You eventually quit listening to that person because you got to annoyed. Now sometimes you don’t need to do most of the listening, you constantly need to evaluate the situation. Sometimes people really want to hear what you have to say. In this situation still try and get the other person involved and flip around the question that they just asked you.

People who talk too much

1. People always talk about them behind their backs

2. In group settings they feel they always need to say something just to feel like they are contributing.

3. Usually have very big egos

4. They ask questions that they already have the answers too

5. Because they are so focused on having something to say aren’t even listening to what someone is saying.

People Who Listen Effectively

1.Get the whole picture, than they can act accordingly.

2.Everyone loves a good listener so you will make tons of friends.

3.No one talks bad about you, who ever said “man that kid just loves to listen too much”

Good listening is going to really take effort. The reason is that people can think a lot faster than people can speak. What ends up happening is that you begin to think of other things as that person is speaking. Than you become consumed with those thoughts. Next thing you know the other person asks you “So than do you think I did the right thing”. You weren’t listening so you have no idea what to say. This is one of biggest turn offs in trying to become friends with that person.

Things to avoid when Listening

Don’t Interrupt

Because you have the upper hand by thinking faster than someone who is speaking, you will become tempted to interrupt. Don’t because the other person will get the feeling that you don’t care what they are saying and want to bring back the topic of conversation to you. The other person might also have great momentum going in telling you a story, but when you interrupt them their story doesn’t carry as much feeling when they go back to speaking. You also show that you are one of those people who enjoy speaking more than being a good listener. When you interrupt you are also making assumptions of what you think the other person is about to say. This might cause you to miss out completely different information. Because you interrupted them the other person might not even want to continue telling you about it.

Don’t Finish Other Peoples Sentences

Don't Offer Advice too Soon

Compliments + Appreciation

The way to make people feel important is through sincere compliments and appreciation. Most people go out their way to do something, to get other people to notice them, yet most people don’t. Get in the habit of noticing the little things about people. In the end the little things are what matter and what end up making a person unique so pay attention. Next time you see them, be the first to give them a sincere compliment on something even as simple as their hair cut. By making other people feel good about them selves you should also feel good for doing it, it’s a win win situation.

Many times people walk around with the mentality that other people owe them something, nobody owes you anything. Whenever anybody does anything for you show your appreciation and let them know you don’t take anything for granted. Be spontaneous get the person a small gift when they don’t expect it.

Encouragement

Once you find out what is truly important to someone you must provide encouragement. Everyone has dreams and aspirations. Be the one who encourages them to pursue their goals. Any insight or information that’s empowering will provide a boost to their confidence. Most people are so afraid of failure that they will not pursue their goals. They will give you all the reasons why their goals are out of reach. Your goal should be to switch their focus on the negative reasons to the ways how they can make it happen. You have to remember that whatever we focus on becomes our reality, so when you focus only on the negative aspects that’s all you will see. When they give you a reason why they can’t do it, ask them if that’s really a reason or a mere excuse. If they are excuses show them how destructive it is to be in this mental state. Make them realize that all their hopes and dreams are in danger all because of petty excuses. One of the best feelings you will get in dealing with people, is when you get another person excited about his goals or ideas. Now that the person is excited you need to point them in the right direction. Help them research the world they want to be in; find out as much relevant information. Help them create a plan and deadlines that will help them reach their goals. Start with small attainable goals, this will help them gain momentum and than move onto more challenging goals. By being active in the whole process you will build a deeper and more influential relationship with that person. He will not see you as a mere friend but as an ally in their journey to success.

Plan and Organize Social Events

One of the best ways to develop a meaningful experience with someone is through a social event. Whenever you participate in an event or trip your relationship with those people will become even greater. When I studied abroad in Prague I have never developed such strong relationships in such a short amount of time. I met people from all over the world and on the weekends we would take trips to other countries. On these trips I made incredible bonds, because everyone was on an adventure of experiencing new things together. Experiences are always magnified with more people involved. Just think about when you are watching a funny movie all by yourself you begin to laugh but than realize no one is there to enjoy the moment with you and your experience is quickly diminished .

I hope all these pointers will help everyone become more influential, take care and much success to everyone!

mmm....
so i must bcome a likeable person...

that's s good article for me....

well, that's from me today.
hope you all like it.
See ya in my next blog !!!

Color Psychology and Your T-Shirt ...

2008-06-22T17:32:00.000-07:00

Hellooo.....

huff.....

what's up guys ??

hope you all fine....

this time, i want to share something unique...
it's about psychology...

and the title....

you can read it above !!!
hehehe....

The author is Rachel Lowenstein.
well, let's get started !!

The psychology of color is one that is concerned with the effects of hues on emotions, moods, and performance. Color is pervasive in the world, effective on the impressionable, and helps drive the emotion of man. Color is so profound, that it instantly drives our daily decisions within milliseconds. Why does a pale green calm the viewer while a shocking emerald jolts him? Why is cherry red associated with shameless sex appeal while burgundy is affiliated with timeless sophistication? These questions and many others like them all help individuals understand why hues drive their daily decisions. Therefore, it seems pertinent to consider color when choosing the design, style, and font related to t-shirts. Though the meaning of colors can vary according to culture, the general connotation of colors can be decoded into a small handful of meanings.

Red

A scarlet hue can be intense, it can be bold, and it can be passionate. Red quickens the heartbeat and it attracts the eye. Red, as a whole, can often be too straightforward as the primary color of a t-shirt. However, if your t-shirt objective is to catch another's eye, red is an ideal color. Scarlet is related with love and romance and is often used in related designs. A yellow-based red can be seen as hot and fiery, but also cheap. A blue-based red is the most passionate of the red family and can be worn by most skin types. Burgundy is seen as sophisticated but can also be dated. It is advisable to use red as an accent color in most cases. Hanes' most used red is Deep Red RE because of its eye-catching nature. Common types of custom t-shirts that use red are sports teams and collegiate events.

Orange

Energetic, exciting, and edgy, orange is one of the trickiest colors to work with. Though seen as attention-grabbing, orange is also perceived as the most unattractive color to the eye. It can be seen as aggressive, though it is less intense than red. A golden-hued orange that is commonly used by t-shirt vendors is Hanes Athletic Orange AX. Orange should be used sparingly on a t-shirt design and rarely should it be used as the t-shirt color because of its negative connotations.

Yellow

Yellow, in most cases, can be seen as cheerful and uplifting. Unless it is a heavily saturated yellow, golden hues are related to optimism, nature, and summer. A bright, saturated yellow can be seen as hazardous and even a sign of warning. Pastel yellows are inoffensive but childish. Family reunion and Greek t-shirts often employ yellow because of its eye-catching, but exciting, nature. Hanes has a variety of yellows, from bronze to bumblebee. The Hanes color Gold GO is a collegiate gold commonly utilized by universities. Golden Nugget GN is slightly more bronze and Yellow YE is a true, vibrant yellow.

Green

One of the most universal colors, different shades of green denotes a variety of meanings. However, most shades of green are the most pleasant to the human eye. Pale green is calming and refreshing while emerald green signifies richness and wealth. Lime green displays youth and playfulness while yellow-green is most popular in Asian cultures. A deep green is one of the most neutral colors to use for text as it is eye-catching but not offensive.

Blue

The color blue is collective and ubiquitous. It is, on a whole, the least complicated color to work with. When designing custom t-shirts, navy blue is one of the most requested shirt colors because of its neutrality. Peaceful, trusting, cool, dependability, and care are all words that are related to the color blue. Therefore, most designers use it to imply that a company is dependable and trusting. When in doubt while designing a t-shirt, it is advisable to choose a shade of blue. Aqua is young and hip, pastel is soothing and serene, navy is trusting and loyal, electric is trendy and fun. Companies such as banks and large corporations often choose blue because of its universal appeal.

Purple

Purple is often used as a spiritual, sensual, and sophisticated color. It is trendy in most cases and, if not used carefully, ultra feminine. Conversely, a deep purple can be used to replace gray, black, or brown as a neutral shade that maintains a slight punch of color. Religious t-shirts utilize purple for its spirituality while athletic teams use it for its bright neutrality.

Pink

When designing custom t-shirts, it is significant to keep in mind the femininity of rose colors. Pink is generally associated with romance, love, and marriage. It is most commonly used on t-shirts that are related to feminine ideals and matters. Hanes' Pale Pink PI is a baby pink, Pink PS is a vibrant pink, and Wow Pink 6A is a hot pink.

Brown

Masculine, natural, and warm, brown is a neutral color. It is associated with naturalness because of its abundance in nature. Caramel hues are warm, sand is mild, and deep browns are rich. When designing custom t-shirts, many customers use brown when designing family-style events because of its rich, home-style feel.

Black, Gray, and White

These three colors represent highs, lows, and everything in between. White, in Western culture, is seen as pure, innocent, and virginal. Black, in most cultures, is modern, severe, elegant, sorrowful, and mysterious all at once. Because of its multitude of meanings, black, paired with the correct design, can denote many things. A t-shirt with a skull and cross bones that is black is seen as edgy and severe. Yet, a shirt with modern lines and spacious text can be seen as contemporary. In addition, to soften black, gray is often used to maintain the elegance and formality of black.

This article is available for distribution with all original content and rights to the author Rachel Lowenstein.

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cool isn't it ??
my fave color is black...
so....
yeah, with right design, it can denote many things....

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Creating Your Vision ...

2008-06-18T16:45:00.000-07:00

Hello.....

welcome to my blog....

well, what's up guys ??

hope you all fine....

by the way.....
this time....

the topic is about psychology once again....

the title....

Creating Your Vision

The author is Ivan Campuzano.
it's a nice article by him.

Here it comes...

"Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one" Albert Einstein

I feel that one of the most important ingredients in your formula for success is having a clearly defined and vivid vision of where you want to be. At first the “how” is not that important, you need to create a vision that gets you so excited that you develop the mentality that you will stop at nothing to get what you want. Many people first focus on the how than very quickly find themselves overwhelmed with too many details and just as quickly talk them selves out of pursuing their goals. You have to take a leap of faith and trust that the how will be shown to you as you go along. Do you remember the days as a kid with dreams of epic proportions? What happened those dreams? You got older and domesticated by a society that says that having those dreams is foolish. That’s nonsense, why wouldn’t you want to accomplish the things that even as a kid you knew would make you happy. I encourage you to dream like you once used to.

“Shoot for the moon…even if you

Miss you’ll still be amongst them stars”- Beanie Sigel(rap artist)

One way I keep myself motivated and keep my vision alive is through my picture book. In my book I have everything that I want and every morning I look at it to remind me what I want in life. Go right now and get some magazines and cut out every picture of the things you want and places you want to visit, don’t be thinking if you can actually get those things now, dare to dream. Remember your mind thinks in pictures, look at your picture book until in becomes as vivid as possible in the theater of your mind. Your mind cant tell the difference between something you remember or something you experience in real time.

Visualization Exercises(meditation):

(Please read this whole section, I will explain why almost all self help fails to produce the results people want)

You can think of meditation as conscious sleeping. Just as you sleep to gain energy for your daily functioning, meditation is conscious sleeping that gives you all the energy(creative abilities) you need for what you intend to accomplish.

I also use lucid dreaming as another way to increase creativity, I will soon write a hub on lucid dreaming.(Lucid dreaming is when you actually become aware in your dream that you are dreaming, once properly trained you can control your dreams)

Use the power of meditation to help you achieve your goals. Strive to everyday meditate one minute for each year of your current age. I am 24, so everyday I try and meditate at least 24 minutes. If you are new to meditation check out this website on transcendental meditation .There are many techniques find something that feels good to you.

Quantum Mind Power

Daily Routine:

1. Pick a nice comfortable place where to meditate. Have an intention on what you plan to meditate on before hand. Ex. A destination you want to visit.

2. Find a comfortable position to sit. Sitting on a chair or on the floor, does not really matter as long as it is comfortable for you.

3. Cross your legs, clasp your hands together.(this helps make your own energy circuit and gives stability)

4.Close your eyes, than stop inner and outer chatter.

5. Relax, begin thinking that your whole body is becoming extremely relaxed.

6. Eyes should be closed.

7. You will notice that your mind is full of many thoughts. Your mind will than begin to ask questions to those thoughts and try and come up with answers whether they are known or unknown. This is why your mind(ego) can be your enemy if it mostly thinks in negative terms.

8. You will need to transcend your mind and thoughts in order to meditate. Your mind and thoughts are what separate you from your higher self, you can also think of your higher self as your subconscious mind don't worry about the labels.

9. You transcend your mind by simply observing your breath. Don't inhale/exhale consciously just observe your natural breathing. Don't go behind your thoughts, if you catch your self drifting just always come back to your breathing. Slowly the amount of thoughts reduces and your breathing becomes thinner and shorter. If you are able to keep all your focus on your breath, you will get to the point of no thought and no breath. This state of no thought is your connection to your divine being and energy body. The more you meditate the more benefits and energy that you will receive. Your own self awareness and consciousness will also expand.

10. You will feel a very pleasurable feeling meditating. If you feel any discomfort in your body these can be possible areas of disease or illness. If you meditate everyday you will heal your body naturally.

11. Now that you are in a state of no thought and total relaxation. Begin to think only on your intention. Remember whatever you think now is in a state that will be impregnated directly into your subconscious. It is incredibly important that you don't color any of your thoughts with any lack,limitation,dis belief or doubt. This is why almost all self help material does not produce the results people expect. Wishing for more money(or anything else) never works, the thought of wanting more money also has the thought of doubt attached to it. Ask your self how many thoughts that you think about have been modified in a way that is not beneficial to you. You just never realize that you are programming your sub conscious all day. This is why meditation is so powerful. You are able to make suggestions to your subconscious where the thought is not modified in any way shape or form. So if you want to make things happen fast you need to get rid of the concept of attaching time to yourthoughts. You have to remember that everything you get in your life comes based on the conditions that you set up and time is usually one condition that cuases the most frustration with people. Just as a computer programmer gives a computer instructions to complete a task, you program the most powerful computer you have which is your subconscious. Your conscious mind acts as the gate keeper as to what thoughts you let in. Now that you know this choose to become more aware and conscious about what you think all day long. Learn to see the world in a non linear way, remove time from your consiousness and watch how things show up in your life faster than you ever thought.

Thoughts = feelings = actions = results (just like that you can begin to shape your life)

12. Mentally rehearse every moment of it with all your senses. Dare to be like Peter Pan :)

13. Visualize in vivid detail, your intention as established fact. Also make sure you meditate only on days you feel good. Remember you want your thoughts to be as pure as possible. This also means that you really find out what you want, make sure its not something you want solely for ego purposes. Thoughts that involve the ego are usually always colored with negativity.

14. With time you will begin to be able to hold vivid pictures of anything(you will develop you third eye). The more you are able to hold onto an image in your mind the more power you give it.

15. Get up and go have a great day :) notice how much energy you have the rest of the day. As you advance in your discipline, you will have a lot of fun basically creating your day before it starts.

Beliefs:

To start making that vision a reality you will have to change some of your beliefs and adopt beliefs that will help you reach your goals. Because if you have this great vision of you retiring on your own private beach but deep down you don’t believe you can do it, you have already sabotaged yourself. Your desire and your belief are in conflict with each other and therefore you will not manifest what it is that you want into your life. If you want to be a good leader one day but you currently have the belief that you are a shy person, it will not happen. You need to truly make a decision to adopt the belief that you are really outgoing. When you truly decide to do something you will find a way to do it.

“Nothing happens unless first a dream” – Carl Sandburg

Some Ways to shape your beliefs:

1. Always think Success- as soon as you think about failure forget about it and don’t let anymore negative thoughts snowball. The more attention you give a thought the more powerful it will become than you will make it harder for yourself to get back to a productive mind state. The only way to change how you feel is to think about something else. Whenever you feel doubt, fear, and failure creeping into your mind have a default thought that you can use to avoid giving attention to mental poison. As soon as I feel I am entertaining thoughts of negativity I immediately begin to think about relaxing on a beach and affirm to myself that “I attract abundance to all areas of my life”. The more I try and have the feelings of being on the beach with no worries and remind myself that I am in complete control of how I feel, I immediately feel the negativity begin to melt away as I begin to focus on my new positive thought.

2. Develop the belief that you are better than you currently feel- don’t look at your weaknesses as a burden but as an opportunity to improve your self. When I find something I don’t like about my personality I don’t get down on myself for it, I just realize that now I have something I can work on to make myself better. Most importantly love and accept who you are, not who you will or should be.

3. Believe that sky’s the limit- if you have little goals you will have little success, the bigger your dreams the more potential for your possible success. Even If you think your dream is too big, strive to reach that dream, because you will end up at a better place than if you would have set your sights on a smaller goal. The trick is to really believe you can do it, this just isn’t wishful thinking. Wishful thinking never got anyone anything, you need to find out what you want and get out there and get it. If you really want that house on the beach your mind will come up with ways to help you get it.(develop faith in your self)

How to remove junk beliefs:

1. Meditate on your old belief and tell the truth about it. Now replace it with a belief that will better serve you. Meditate on it until you feel you have changed that belief.

Now when you accept these beliefs it means you will have to raise your standards and develop a strategy that will put you on the road to accomplish what you set forth. Do whatever you have to do. Read any books that will spark your interest or help you discover any distinctions that will point you in the right direction. Find a role model, a person who has already accomplished what you want. Find out what some of their beliefs, interests, body language, image, etc. is and adopt them as your own. Your role model can serve as a blue print, the goal is to cut down on the trial and error so you can get where you want faster than you ever thought possible. You can take all the qualities from all the people you admire and add your own personal touch. Just think of if it as if you are trying to build the person you want and know you can be. Thomas Edison is one of the greatest inventors in history, he was able to elaborate, modify and adapt on other peoples ideas. You don’t have torecreate the wheel just constantly be aware of any success ingredients you come across and make them part of your identity. Think of your mind as a warehouse the more you learn and store will eventually serve as an inventory for future reference, which will breed new ideas and perspectives.

Consistency is key we are all creatures of patterns and habits. In order to become the person you desire to be, start by changing your patterns. Think of all the quality traits you must possess, make a pattern which uses those traits efficiently than strive to be consistent. Consistency will develop into habits and this is key because if you fail to be consistent with your actions you will not be consistent with who you desire to be. This lack of confusion between your actions and what your mind knows you are capable of leads to tremendous amounts of stress, confusion, and even depression. Many other consequences also come from a lack of consistency.

This is why awareness of self is critical; you need to be constantly evaluating your self. Decide if the persona you are currently displaying is the reality that you want for yourself,because with enough time thats what your reality will become.

Thank you for reading my hub, I love to hear anyones opinion or suggestions. Good luck to everyone.

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I Think I Can. I Think I Can. Can I?

2008-06-16T02:41:00.000-07:00

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this time, back to our main topic of the blog, how to make us a better person....

the title is....
well, as you see above.....

the author is Michelle Wahlder.

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I think I can. I think I can. Can I?

Your mental train ticket to self-empowerment

We all find ourselves at certain points in our lives holding first class tickets to negative mental trains of thought. Michele Wahlder (MS, LPC, PCC), a two-time cancer survivor and Dallas, Texas-based Certified Life Coach and Psychotherapist, has placed thousands of people on the right track to self-empowerment via a plan she calls the 5 C Process. The journey challenges individuals to:

One

Clarify Current View – Where are you now- honestly?

Conscious awareness of your current view is the first step in becoming the best you can be. Getting clear about how your life aligns with your values, talents and unique gifts is vital to your happiness. You need to know where you are in order to learn where you want to go.

You can clarify your current view by completing a review of eight life areas. Be honest with yourself about how happy are you with your profession, finances, health and overall well-being, primary relationships, personal development, spirituality, environment, hobbies, etc.

Two

Connect with Your Highest Vision – Where do you want to be?

Example: A client of mine, a yoga instructor, decided she was happy teaching but wanted to contribute to the world on a larger level. She wasn’t happy with the quality of the yoga clothing that was accessible to her and her fellow yogis. Her vision was to design and create fun, hip and timeless yoga clothes using eco-conscious fabrics.

You have to get really clear about what you want. It is crucial that you connect to your highest vision of yourself because you can’t create it unless you are clear about what it looks like. If you don’t have a vision of where you want to go or what you want to be, you will most likely NOT get there. To quote Henrietta Klauser, “If you have a connection to what you want, take the next step and write it down.” If you don’t have any idea about what you want, or how you want to be in life to bring about greater happiness, begin looking through magazines and create a Vision Board/Collage of what attracts you. You may also want to consider getting an outside perspective from a friend or a professional coach. I take my clients through a guided imagery that gives them a glimpse of what their future could look like. There are also books that can help guide you. Just get help assessing your talents, divine gifts and abilities and then determine how you want to use them more fully in the world. We can’t help others as fully, if we are not aware of how we can best serve. So instead of thinking of it as selfish to engage in knowing yourself better, I would suggest you consider it selfish to hold back and not be the best you can be. Only in this way, can we help the world and others.

Three

Create Inspiring Goals – How will you get there?

Example: My client created a tiered plan of what needed to happen step by step – outer goal. All of this was influenced by her inner goal of keeping a measured pace and a balanced life. Her goal was to enjoy the process.

You have to create a plan and take specific actions to get you from where you are now to where you want to be. When most people write goals, they just write a list of action steps, usually external actions. I believe it is more powerful to have inner and outer goals. An outer goal is what you want. For instance, you might think, “I want a new house”. An inner goal is more focused on the how. How will a new home benefit me and my family? Will it offer more common gathering areas, a larger kitchen so that we can cook together, etc.? How can I appreciate what I have now until I get this home? How can I make this a joyful experience rather than a stressful one? If you can not be grateful for what you have now, then when you get a new home, it will only create very short-term happiness for you. Then, you will be focused on the next external illusion of happiness. For 2008, I suggest taking at least three of the life areas I mentioned earlier and jot down how you couldbenefit from living your highest vision in each area. Next, add action steps toward your desired achievements along with completion dates.

Four

Clear Obstacles – How will you remove obstacles in your way?

We all have dreams and visions for our life, but frankly, there are many things that can get in the way. The two most common obstacles I see with my clients are:

The inability to say NO— In order to bridge the gap from your current view to your highest vision, you have to make room for what “Could Be”. If your life is full and you want to add more of the things that are truly important in your life, you should start the change process by making room first. You must say no to some things in your life, so you can say yes to what is most important. You have to give up the destructive habits, behaviors and activities to make room for new ones.

A metaphor would be a water hose watering a flowering plant. The water in the hose is your life force and the flowering plant is what you are trying to grow in your life. If the water hose has leaks, it will not have enough water or life force/energy to reach its desired outcome or vision (to grow the plant into full bloom). Examples of leaks might include toxic friendships, unrealistic expectations, watching too much television, eating sugar, overspending, negative relational patterns with your spouse or working on an outdated job.

Example: A client’s obstacle here was that her 8- year-old daughter needed caring for and she was afraid she wouldn’t be able to be a good mother plus jumpstart a successful, new business. We remedied this issue by getting clear on the proper definition of a good mother. Also, practically speaking, she needed help picking up her daughter from school. So she got her husband to assist her in this area so she would have time to create this new business.

Negative self-talk—Research shows we have approximately 50,000 internal messages we say to ourselves daily. We are constantly walking around having conversations with ourselves. And it is what we say that makes all the difference in the overall quality of our lives.

Example: I was once in Starbucks, and I watched this woman spill her coffee while reaching for a sugar packet and I heard her say out loud, “I’m so stupid. I can’t believe I did that.”

Now, I just happen to hear her, but this is an example of something you might say internally as well. You might think, “No big deal. I say things like this to myself all the time.” Well, IT IS A BIG DEAL as our subconscious hears these messages and acts on them as if they were real. Don’t say anything to yourself that you wouldn’t want someone else saying to you.

Think of self-talk like mental fuel. Now, imagine filling your car with dirty water. We all know you wouldn’t get very far. Now, take that same car and fill it with high quality gasoline. You’ll most likely reach your destination. It is the same with people and the words we use. If the words are negative and toxic, we will sputter along with low energy and our performance suffers. If our words are positive and tender, we will feel confident, energized, encouraged and will most likely meet our goals faster and easier. Here are some key things to remember if you ever find yourself preparing to board the train of BAD self-talk:

B– stands for belittling self-talk. Stop telling yourself, “I am not good enough.” If your dream is to have a healthy self-confidence, which of the following examples is more likely to get your there:

A. “I’m so stupid. I can’t believe I did that.”

B. “Whoops, mistakes happen.”

Can you see how the Answer B is much kinder?

A – stands for awfulizing. Stop predicting a future filled with gloom and doom, and dwelling on scary thoughts. If you dream of obtaining a career you love, which of the following will move you closer to your vision:

A. “I did terribly on my interview, I’ll never find a job I like.”

B. “I will answer that question on past employment differently next time and I will ace it! I know I will one day have the job I love.”

Can you see how Answer B places you in the mindset of a successful job search?

D – stands for deceiving. This is when you deceive yourself into thinking you are a victim, and that other people are to blame for your circumstances. If we want a happy relationship which will of the below responses will aid in achieving this goal:

A. “If my spouse would only do more around the house, then I would be happy.”

B. “I can and will choose happiness today, no matter what my spouse does.”

Answer B is the right choice, wouldn’t you agree?

S – stands for shoulding – This is when you give yourself a lot of shoulds, musts, and ought tos, then beat yourself up for not living up to unrealistic standards. Say your dream is to be in top physical condition, which will further that:

A. “I should have eaten a salad for lunch instead of that big ol’ hamburger. I’m such a pig!”

B. “I could have eaten a salad, but I chose not to. Tomorrow I will make healthier choices.”

The second choice is so much more inspiring, don’t you think?

Five

Commit to Action – Are you willing to do what it takes?

The final step of the 5 C Process is to commit to action. How many times have we all made plans and never carried them out, or started off excited and lost motivation? No one ever does anything great alone. We all need encouragement and support from others including an accountability partner who is willing to help hold the vision of the person you want to be. In the previous example of my client, her biggest negative self-talk was how to be a good mom and a good business woman. Her thoughts were, “If I don’t pick up my child every day from school, I am a bad mother.” Instead, we replaced it with, “Picking up my child from school daily is not what makes me a good mother. I am, indeed, a fabulous mother.”

Here are the four action steps that have been proven to help you eliminate your negative self talk:

• Become aware of your negative messages –listen to voice in head

• Stop! You have to stop immediately if you find yourself dwelling on any negative thoughts

• Replace negative thoughts with a kinder alternatives

• Practice. It takes a commitment of time in order to turn a pattern of negative thinking into a more positive train of thought.

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Frequency Marketing Programs Guaranteed to Boost Business !

2008-06-14T21:01:00.000-07:00

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today's topic is ....

Frequency Marketing Programs Guaranteed to Boost Business !!

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oh yeah, the author is Michelle Salater...

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All businesses love to see previous customers return to purchase their products or services again and again. Repeat customers are beneficial to the success of your company because they . . .

*Cost less to attract than new consumers

*Are easier to attract than new consumers

*Will recommend your company to others

*Require less service

An excellent way to keep previous customers repeat customers is through a frequency-marketing program. Frequency marketing is any form of marketing that rewards customers for their purchases and encourages them to return. Frequent flyer miles illustrate this concept in the clearest of terms. Many airline companies offer frequent flyer miles, which motivate the consumer to continue flying with that airline in order to obtain cheaper services.

Any company can utilize frequency marketing for its customers. Some magazines or newspapers offer deals for resubscribing to their publication in order to keep the consumer a frequent buyer and reader. The make up store Sephora has Beauty Insider Rewards, which also benefit returning customers. The program keeps track of purchases, and at the $100 spending mark, the customer receives a free gift. The rewards restart after the $100 mark, and the free gifts keep coming whenever that mark is reached.

Creating a solid relationship with customers is very important and should be done at the earliest stage possible during sales. Customer maintenance insures their happiness and repetitive sales.

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Successful Network Marketing, 5 Laws For Leadership !

2008-06-14T03:01:00.000-07:00

Hello guys...
what's up ?

Hope all of you fine....
and always in the right way to be a better person....

In this blog....
i will share about 5 laws for leadership....
to make a successful network marketing....

so, the topic is about marketing !!

The author is William McRand...

Ready to make it ?

Let's get started !!

Its getting harder and harder to make an earnest living working on a day job. According to the way inflation is riseing, one needs to such for ways to increase their income.

I will be talking more about the Laws of Leadership in Network Marketing. Since I believe that everything rises and falls on leadership, I will be digging into more detail on showing you how to become a true visionary leader.

Law 1 ? The Leader must have a dream larger than those he/she leads.

The greatest error of most people in Network Marketing is that they cannot envision the scope of the business they?re in.

More millionaires have come out of the Network Marketing industry in the last 10 years than any other industry in the world. This industry provides an unparalleled opportunity to make average people, regardless of their age, race, sex or experience incredibly wealthy.

Your downline will always be looking upline for visionary leadership. Big dreamers inspire others to dream. Learn to communicate you dreams and goals and learn the power of Emotional Intelligence ? the ability to transfer emotion to your downline.

Visionary leaders establish themselves as forward thinkers. They look at what does not exist right now and they see it already existing! The size of your dream will always affect the amount of effort you are willing to put in. Your downline wants to know that you are thinking bigger so that their financial goals will coincide with yours.

Law 2 ? The Leader must have an attitude superior to those he/she leads.

Attitude control is a constant battle. Leaders feed themselves continuously with powerful thoughts and act in an upbeat manner at all times. A leader must always be ?up?.

The true leader is one that sees the solution and does not focus on the problems. Positive information is gained from reading books on personal development and listening to positive thinking tapes. Positive attitudes are contagious just as negative ones are.

Remember that negative spreads faster than positive so careful not to show any negativity. One critical statement about the company, upline, or the products by a leader can weaken and even destroy organizations.

Law 3 ? The Leader takes responsibility and is first to admit when he/she has made a mistake.

There is nothing more damaging to an organization than a leader who is ?always right?. Leaders should always understand that they are responsible for the things that go wrong in the growth of the organization, regardless of the actual responsibility. The leader sees the danger in placing blame on others and takes it himself or herself to be the lightening rod for criticism.

Law 4 ? The Leader is a decision maker.

Nothing is more demoralizing than indecisive leadership. Someone once said a leader is concerned with doing the right thing while a manager concerns themselves with doing things right. Not all of your decisions will be correct but as long as you?re making them and making them with the right reasons in mind, you?ll learn to make right decisions more often. Your decisions will get better as you gain experience. Strive for excellence not perfection.

Law 5 ? The Leader puts those he/she leads first.

A leader understands that by putting others before yourself, you gain trust and confidence from your downline. When your group knows that you?re looking out for them and have their best interests at heart, they will work harder for the simple fact that they know you want them to succeed!

Here?s an inspiring story of leadership:

During the Civil War, Ulysses S. Grant was surveying the condition of his battered troops one day when he saw one of his soldiers who had no boots. General Grant said ?Soldier where are your boots?? ?I have none sir.? came the reply. Grant got down from his horse, took off his boots and gave them to the soldier. As he was riding off he said to the soldier, ?As long as I have a pair of boots no man in my army will go without them?.

Putting those you lead first always results in a confident more aggressive organization. The MARINES call it ?Esprit de Corps?. It?s called compassionate leadership. It always works.

Zig Ziglar says it best ? "If you help enough other people get what they want, you'll always get what you want."

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Mmmmmmmm.........

2008-06-12T18:33:00.000-07:00

Helllooooooooooo.......

how are you guys ??
Hope all of you, always in the greatest condition....

mmmm.....

this blog, isn't about something usual that i usually write about....

i'm thinking right now....

usually...
i always sharing about, how to be a better person...
in psychology way (maybe, it depends on who is the reader, right ??)...

and now....
how about....
blogging something, to make someone better, but in specific way ?
maybe about marketing, or some medical treatment...

so, if someone read it...
it will make the people who read it, will have more knowledge, right ??

so it's the same way to make people who read it, to become a better person, right ??

Yeah....
that's the point....

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Helping the One you Love to Help the One you Love ...

2008-06-12T02:00:00.000-07:00

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this time...
the topic is so nice...
the author is Sean L.G. Latimer...

as you can see, the title is...

Helping the One you Love to Help the One you Love !!

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Are you a parent of an adolescent who experiences their extreme mood swings, addictive and self-destructive behaviours, intense and unstable relationships, and black and white thinking? Your child may be suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). And BPD is scary, isn't it? One moment your child can't stand to be away from you; they think you are the most wonderful person in the world! A few hours later, they despise you and pummel you with hurtful words and possibly physical violence. Most of the time you feel as if you have to literally walk on eggshells around him or her, because you never know how he or she is going to react or what they might do next. A person suffering from BPD may appear completely "normal" and may often have the ability to act "as if" he or she has no problems. Although some may be tempted to abandon a BDP sufferer, you are their parent and cannot do that. The worst part is that you feel helpless. You want to help your child; you don't know how. There is recent research-based evidence of a treatment model that can address the fundamental and important need that parents are longing to satisfy: help for their child. Before we look at this new model, let us review what therapies have been used to date, and where they may fall short. For BPD adolescents, up to now they have likely been in individual therapy with some skills-based Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT), and perhaps group counselling. DBT is a therapy developed by Marsha Linehan in Washington State, and combines person-centred empathy and acceptance with cognitive behavioural problem-solving (CBT), social-skills training and Middle-Eastern philosophy. It helps BPD individuals to modulate and control their extreme emotionality and behaviours, tolerate their distress as "normal", and trust their thoughts and emotions. Although these components are helpful, therapy needs to include family members and to address core family processes unique to BPD, as well as the complexities of an adolescent's development. During this developmental stage in an adolescent's life, there is substantial physical change along with hormonal development, there is development of key cognitive abilities as the brain grows, honing of social skills, and immense peer pressure to perform competently. While your child is experiencing this turmoil, they are interacting with family members as they develop their identity and seek support as they grow. A positive family role is particularly important in the life of a BPD adolescent, and this component would address the need for an effective, holistic and systemic treatment approach to adolescents with BPD and drug abuse.

If these approaches have been working for some time now, then what is missing, and how does this new model address the need? With Integrative Borderline Adolescent Family Therapy (I-BAFT), the researchers believe that they have created an approach that incorporates three necessary treatment components: structural family therapy (SFT), which assists families to restructure out of fragmentation and under organization to help with role definition and boundary setting; empirically-tested brief strategic family therapy (BSFT) to help with communication; and dialectical behaviour therapy (DBT) discussed above. The approach also includes that developmental focus which is more critical here than in adult BPD. This multi-component treatment model brings together varied activities for the adolescent and their family to combat this disorder, and to lift their burden. This includes weekly family therapy; individual therapy; and skills-building interventions. It is designed to be offered in 3-sessions per week over a 6-8 month period, and involves separate therapists and a psychosocial skills trainer. There are a number of specific issues which are a source of concern to parents and unhelpful to the adolescent, including: self harm; drug abuse; emotion dysregulation & impulsivity; failure to establish life goals & skills; unstable family relationships; and family interactions that maintain the behavioural problems. Although it isn't cheap, this approach focuses on changing these factors. It also encompasses comprehensive strategies that are designed to target and alter behaviours which hinder the child's ability to cope effectively with BPD. These include: no suicide-related behaviour; continued therapy during crisis; crises framed as opportunities; and working with family members to provide structure. Because parents are concerned whether their child is able to cope with BPD, the adolescent's treatment goals are: increasing skills in regulating emotions and maintaining healthy relationships; setting life goals; increasing motivation to achieve goals; modifying suicidal & parasuicidal behaviour; eliminating drug abuse; reducing impulsive behaviours, and reducing severe emotional dysfunction. While parents will see their child's learning grow, the family can also learn and grow. Therefore, family treatment goals are: increasing parental leadership, guidance and nurturance; fostering parent-adolescent attachment; promoting familial validation through communication; eliminating ongoing verbal, physical or sexual violence; reducing interactions that reward emotion dysregulation; and promoting parent-adolescent engagement. All these will create a healthy and supportive environment for your child.

But will this approach produce results? The researchers found that an adolescent population is difficult to engage, retain and treat, and that the therapy is intensive. Despite these difficult obstacles, through this effective and successful treatment, they were able to engage 70% of the adolescents and families that enrolled. High parent and adolescent satisfaction reflected a positive assessment of the three treatment components by both adolescents and their parents. This is especially significant as the adolescent clients were not self-referred nor were they originally interested in treatment. They also found that unhealthy family patterns may precede the BPD behaviours and help them to blossom, so treatment that deals with adapting these is positive for parents and children. A positive note was that adolescent BPD traits were less entrenched than those of an adult BPD sufferer, and so the outlook for parents is brighter. Key learnings during the conducting of this research were that there is a negative impact on the adolescent when parental figures are lacking, there are adult-adolescent attachment problems to be addressed, and generic family therapy alone is insufficient. The research convincingly emphasizes the importance of providing a developmental and growth approach during the adolescent's developmental stage.

Parents will be pleased to note that this research contributes to the growing impetus for integrative, systemic and holistic approaches to mental health, which include a variety of treatments that had been offered separately before now. If you are a parent or family member of an adolescent diagnosed with BPD, don't think that you have to battle this alone. Contact your local Child and Youth Mental Health branch to discuss these treatment options that will not only help your child, but also help the whole family to become more resilient and take a role in meeting the challenge of adolescent BPD. Admittedly BPD may be a struggle, yet the goal is to struggle well!

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7 Natural Depression Releasers.

2008-06-11T03:59:00.000-07:00

HELLLOOOOO.........

What's up.....
welcome to my blog....

this time the topic is ....

7 Natural Depression Releasers !!

Cool, right ?

The author is Wil Dieck.
It's a good article by him.
Let's get started !!

Please note, even though these remedies are all well researched, if you or someone you know has severe symptoms of depression, consult a mental health professional.

Exercise

Regular exercise has been proven to reduce stress, anxiety, as well as depression. It helps to boost self-esteem and has been shown to improve mood. Physically exercise strengthens the heart allowing the body to better use oxygen. Also it builds your energy level, lowers your blood pressure, helps reduce overall body fat and makes you look fit and feel healthy. In addition to being good for your overall health, research has shown that exercise is an often underused but effective treatment for mild to moderate depression.

A good goal would be a moderate exercise program in the morning or afternoon 20 to 30 minutes, three times a week, although current studies suggest that four or five times a week is best. If you are just starting out, begin with 20 minutes and build up to 30 minutes. It appears that any form of exercise can help depression because exercise gets you out of the house, moves your body and stimulates serotonin production.

When trying to decide on an exercise program choose something you enjoy. Think about your goals and what you want to accomplish. Do you like group activities or do you like to do things by yourself? Do you have any limiting physical conditions? Do you want to improve cardio vascular health, lose weight or improve overall strength? Whatever you decide, your exercise program should be fun, not a chore. Variety can make your program stimulating and fun.

Even though any form of exercise is good for you, if you are just starting out or over 40 try and exercise program with low impact on the joints and body such as Tai Chi and Yoga. In addition to being excellent for your health while easy on your body, these types of activities also stimulate your mind. If you are interested in Tai Chi give me a call at (800) 989-6570 or check the links on this blog for Yoga instruction at the Institute of Progressive Therapies.

St. John's wort (Hypericum perforatum)

Before reading further please note that studies suggest that St. John's wort is not effective for major depression.

St. John's wort is an herb that has been used for the relief of sadness, depression, anxiety, apathy, sleep disturbances, insomnia, anorexia and feelings of worthlessness. It is available as an over-the-counter supplement in health food stores, drug stores, and online. Interestingly, over 20 clinical trials show a strong correlation between St. John's wort and the relief of mild to moderate depression. These same studies show that St. John's wort works better than a placebo and is as effective as antidepressants, with virtually no side effects.

St. John's wort (extract standardized to contain 0.3 percent hypericin content) is the most thoroughly researched of all natural antidepressants. An article in the British Medical Journal No. 7052 Volume 313 published on Saturday 3 August 1996 explained that an analysis of approximately 25 studies suggested that St. John's Wort is just as helpful as commonly used drugs, without side effects such as headaches or vomiting. One of the study's authors, Dr. Cynthia Mulrow, said she wasnt surprised but the outcome because "some of the commonly used medicines have a basis on herbs or have a basis in plants, and some of the ones were developed using plants."

Like many herbs, it may take a while to notice the full effects. Studies show that with St. John's wort this may take 4 to 6 weeks. The side effects noted in the use of St. John's wort are dizziness, dry mouth, indigestion, and fatigue. It also increases photosensitivity, so if you use it, wear your sun screen and sun glasses to protect your skin and eyes from sunlight.

Massage

Massage is one of the oldest natural remedies available to man and has probably been around since our beginnings. According to research, massage can help reduce stress, anxiety and depression. When you receive a massage your body releases mood and health enhancing chemicals, such as dopamine and serotonin while reducing stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline. It allows your body to relax and your brain to enter a relaxed alpha state. It also helps to increase endorphins which are your body natural pain relievers. This same research has show massage to boosts your immune system, improves your breathing and lung function, stabilizes your blood sugar levels and generally leaves you with a better feeling about yourself and the world.

In the journal "Psychiatry in Practice", Andrew Vickers, a researcher formerly with the Research Council for Complementary Medicine said it's far too simplistic to say massage can cure depression or other diseases, but it can help us to cope better and improve the quality of life.

People that are depressed are often in pain, often without a particular physical cause but anyone who has become stressed or anxious would probably testify of some physical symptom, neck ache, stomach pain, back pain, etc., as a result of being anxious or stressed. Although a massage therapist cannot cure a person with anxiety or depression they can certainly help relieve their physical manifestations. In other words they can help them feel better and isnt that what they want?

Omega-3 fatty acids

In the last 100 years depression has increase in western countries. In countries like Japan and Taiwan that have more fish in their diets, the depression rate is 10 times lower. There is also a smaller incidence of postpartum depression.

An online report in the journal Psychosomatic Medicine suggested that people whose diets contain substantially more of omega-6 polyunsaturated fatty acids than omega-3 fatty acids are at greater risk for clinical depression. It also increases the risk of certain inflammatory diseases.

Jan Kiecolt-Glaser, a professor of psychiatry and psychology at Ohio State and an author of the study stated "It now appears that diet is a very important variable in the equation as to how people respond to depression and stress." She went on to say, "People who are depressed don't eat well, or it might be that there is something about depression that affects how well people process such foods."

Many studies have linked low levels of omega-3 fatty acids to depression. Some of these studies have suggested that supplements may decrease suicidal behavior and improve symptoms of postpartum depression and childhood depression. A study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association in 1996 compared the prevalence of depression across ten nations. The results showed how the lifetime and annual rates for depression vary widely from country to country. This data was compared in a 1998 study published in The Lancet where it was found that populations that consumed more fish experienced less depression.

The brain needs omega-3 fatty acids are to properly function. Since our bodies can't make omega-3s, we need to get them from our diet. Cold water fish such as salmon, sardines, and anchovies are the richest food source of omega-3 fatty acids. The problem with eating more fish is that it puts us at risk for consuming higher levels of mercury, PCBs, and other chemicals. Many consider fish oil capsules a better, cleaner source of these fatty acids because many manufactures filter their fish oil to remove any of these impurities. Capsules are sold in health food stores, drug stores, and online.

Sometimes fish oil capsules interact with blood-thinning drugs such as warfarin and aspirin. Some people experience indigestion and bleeding when they take fish oil and should not be taken 2 weeks before or after surgery. Since fish oil comes from fish it can give you a fishy aftertaste. This can be reduced or completely removed by taking fish oil right before eating.

Acupuncture

Acupuncture is a part of Traditional Chinese Medicine and is among the oldest healing practices in the world. It has been practiced in China and other Asian countries for thousands of years. Although most often associated with sticking very fine needles into specific points on the body, acupuncture is actually a term that involves a family of procedures that stimulate energy throughout the body.

According to Traditional Chinese Medicine a persons health is achieved by maintaining a balanced state of Yin and Yang energy. An imbalance of this energy can lead to blockages along meridians or energy paths in the body. This Chi or Qi energy or can be unblocked by using acupuncture at certain points on the body that connect along these meridians.

Acupuncture has been found to prevent and cure specific diseases and conditions such as headaches and muscle pain. It is also be used to treat arthritis, spastic colon, colitis, and addictions to nicotine or other drugs. It has also been found to help people that have mild to moderate depression.

Although relatively few complications have been reported from the use of acupuncture, it can potentially cause serious side effects if not delivered properly by a qualified practitioner. So be sure that your Acupuncturist is board certified by the state or country you live in.

SAM-e

Before reading further please note that studies suggest that SAM-e may not effective for major depression. These same studies show that Individuals with bipolar (manic) depression should not take SAM-e.

The supplement SAM-e, pronounced "sammy", is short for S-adenosyl-L-methionine. This chemical is found naturally in the human body and studies have shown that it increase the levels of neurotransmitters serotonin and dopamine. Several studies have found SAM-e is more effective than placebo.

SAMe is a critical component of a process called methylation. Methylation makes dozens of essential bodily processes happen from the brain cells to the bones and occurs billions of times every second throughout the body. Under-methylation can result in low levels of the mood-enhancing neurotransmitters serotonin, dopamine, and norepinephrine. Low levels of methylation have been linked to depression while high levels have been linked to bi-polar disorder. Depression and bipolar "are a diverse collection of disorders, each with a different biochemistry," according to Dr William Walsh, founder of the Health Research Institute. In addition to boosting production and action of mood-enhancing neurotransmitters, studies have shown that SAMe promotes the methylation of phospholipids, fats which provide structural support to cellular membranes, which maintain the fluidity and responsiveness of nerve cell membranes.

Please note that SAMe can initially cause nausea in some people. As with all drugs and herbs read the label before taking SAM-e. It is available as an over-the-counter supplement in health food stores, drug stores, and online.

Hypnosis and NLP to Relieve the Symptoms of Depression

Hypnosis and guided imagery are forms of focused relaxation that helps the mind release stress. This stress comes from many sources, from work to personal relationships to a negative focus brought about by concentrating too much on the television and newspapers. Many people remain stressed and develop some form of depression because they continue to think about what is wrong with their lives or with the world or try to fix things that are out of their control. Hypnosis or guided imagery can help you create calm, peaceful images in your mind, providing you with a mental vacation from your anxieties and worries.

I recently had a client that had been diagnosed with depression two years before and had been on disability as a result. He was being prescribed a number of drugs for this depression. When he came to me he confessed that the drugs he was taking were making him feel sick and lethargic and, as a result of these feeling, he was weaning himself from them.

My client had experienced a number of traumatic events when he was young. In one of them he had witnessed an extremely violent event where his girlfriend had been the victim. He had never been treated for this trauma and, although he had tried to suppress his memories, this had affected him deeply. Through hypnosis he recognized that his depression was a result of these memories.

Part of his therapy was recognizing how and where he experienced these depressed feelings. This was accomplished using NLP or Neuro Linguistic Programming, a cutting edge tool that is used to make permanent change. Using NLP he discovered that these memories were like a heavy weight on his chest.

We had a number of sessions that focused on him letting go of these feelings and in a short time he had released these old memories completely. In fact, the last time I saw him, when he walked in to see me he looked like a totally new man, standing straight and tall and at his final session told me he was returning to the work force.

Now I dont claim that I healed this man of his depression. I believe that he did that himself. By using Hypnosis and NLP to uncover the source of his depression, he made the discoveries that helped him overcome it.

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3 Reasons Why You Don't Have the Relationship of Your Dreams.

2008-06-09T08:06:00.000-07:00

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This time the topic is a little serious....

The title is....

3 Reasons Why You Don't Have the Relationship of Your Dreams.

The author is Paul Sterling.

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Some people have the relationships of their dreams, but most people don't. Most people are secretly suffering and settling -- stuck wishing things were better without much chance of change.

What's the difference? What keeps people trapped in dead end situations?

There are three main reasons why people don't have the relationships of their dreams.

Reason #1: Blaming their partner for the problems. "It's all their fault!"

The first and most obvious reason is blaming their partner for everything. They think, "If my partner would only change, things would be perfect." This is such an easy trap to fall into, but if you think about it, it's very dis-empowering.

Why? Because it implies that your future and happiness depend on somebody else changing. And when you think about how hard it is to change your own behavior (as in dieting, quitting smoking, working out, etc.) you start to realize that this strategy is not going to be very successful.

Reason #2: "People know what to do, but they're not doing what they know."

Some people don't have the relationship of their dreams because they are not willing to do the things that they know would help transform the relationship.

This is often a spin-off of reason #1. After-all, "It's their fault, why should I change?" It also may be because of past programming, conditioning and baggage. But whatever is stopping you, you may be unwilling to lead the transformation in your relationship.

Reason #3, "You are willing to change, you just don't know what to change."

The last reason you might not have the relationship of your dreams, is that you don't know what to do.

You don't have the tools, skills and training to deal with the emotional, impactful and important issues that come up in relationships without taking it personally or making it personal -- without attacking or defending.

Doctors learn the language of medicine. Attorneys learn the language of law. Plumbers learn the language of pluming. And couples need to learn the language of compassion and understanding for relationships.

You may not have the specialized skills you need to listen effectively so your partner really wants to talk openly and vulnerably with you.(Most people don't. Not even doctors and lawyers. Look at their divorce rates!)

Or, you may not have the skills that will allow you to talk in a way that your partner will really want to listen and understand you.

When issues come up in a relationship here are some of the strategies people try:

First and foremost is the "Ignore It and Hope It Goes Away" strategy. This is by far the easiest strategy, and at the same time, the least effective.

Occasionally it does work because the level of drama and emotions is reduced. But usually it ends up in only suppressing the drama for the moment, but never resolving it.

The second strategy is asking friends and family for advice. Warning. be very careful about seeking advice from friends and family. Before you do, look at their relationships and see whether or not those relationships are ones you are envious of.

Do they walk their talk? If you followed their advice would you have the relationship of your dreams?

The third strategy is reading articles and books, listening to tapes and watching Dr. Phil or Oprah. I am all for this, as there are some amazing books out there by some great relationship experts. The drawback is that often times what you really need is much more of a hands-on approach.

You wouldn't want to learn how to parachute from a book "The Idiots Guide To Jumping Out Of a Plane." But once you know how to skydive, you can use a book for some fine tuning tips.

The fourth strategy is counseling and therapy. I will give you a mixed review on these. There are definitely people out there who can help you totally transform your relationship... but there are also people out there who are charging an awful lot of money and can't even maintain a relationship of their own.

Most therapy is set up around solving a specific problem, rather than giving you the tools and training to be able to communicate about any issue with compassion, intimacy and understanding.

And then there's the fifth and often most effective strategy: get yourself a relationship coach.

If you were going to lose weight or get in shape. there are three things you need, first a commitment, next a system you can stick to and lastly a good trainer or coach.

You need someone who will teach you, inspire you and if needed, kick you in the butt to keep on the path.

Getting your relationship in shape is not quick. You don't go to the gym once a year and actually expect any lasting results. Do you?

Seek a coach who is knowledgeable about HOW to improve your relationship - somebody who can give you the tools to dig out what's bugging you from your past, and the skill to move through those issues in the present.

Seek a coach who will work with you compassionately. Dr. Phil is funny with his no-nonsense style of coaching ("Get over it!"). But there's nothing like some compassion and empathy for where you're at now - for your beautiful desire to improve things - even if your current strategies aren't working.

Empathy goes a long way toward healing those old wounds. Start today.

Yeah. Start today. Show your spirit.

That's the key of life.

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Laughter Can Really Make You Better!

2008-06-09T08:00:00.000-07:00

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This time, the topic is great !!
For me !

Just want to share what's in my mind...

Well...
this time...
the topic is....

Laughter Can Really Make You Better!

COOL, right ???

The author is Kenneth Scott.

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Research scientists have spent considerable time investigating the effects of laughter. They have found that laughter can help patients recover from illnesses because it tends to lower blood pressure, reduce stress hormone levels, and recharges the body immune system.

Laughter is also known to release a body natural painkilling substances to provide an overall feeling of well-being. This is a result of stimulating blood flow and aiding the heart.

It has been said that laughter has about the same benefits as aerobic exercise, but it comes without the pain sometimes experienced with physical exercise. Laughter also helps to control insulin levels and blood sugars, and while scientists dont recommend that patients quit their diets or exercise regimens, they do say that laughing definitely helps.

Doctors have discovered that laughter also has an effect on viruses, bacteria, cancer and heart disease. They determined that their patients boosted their immune systems just by watching funny videos and movies.

Laughter is one of the first things we learn as babies. Scientists note that babies who smile the quickest were smiled at more in general. If parents are happy and smiling, it is a given that the baby is likely to smile quickly as well.

Much research on children has been performed, and scientists discovered that laughter helped with childrens ability to endure pain and was also effective in the healing process. This is a valuable discovery for young cancer patients. Laughing relaxed patients who had to have painful procedures or who suffered from the anxiety of pain expectation.

Researchers have found that there are many positive effects from laughter, but no known negative effects. Laughter really is the best medicine. Just thinking about something funny makes the hormones flow, and the body has a positive and healthy response.

Experiencing stress without laughter reduces the ability of the body to fight disease because it suppresses the immune system. A stressed body cant fight infections and other disorders. Your body responds to emotions and feelings, so its good to laugh and release all the positive effects related to laughter. Basically, the immune system is closely linked to the positives resulting from laughter. Laughing helps to fight disease.

Stress levels can be reduced through daily exercise and having good eating habits, and when laughter is added, things get even better. People who laugh a lot have reduced stress levels, and reducing stress is a major step in fighting disease.

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What impact does depression have on your family?

2008-06-09T07:54:00.000-07:00

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i wonder this blog will help you....

but as i said before, i will post everything that i can share....

this time i want to share about...

What Impact Does Depression Have On Your Family?

For some who already have a family, keep reading ok....

The author is Jennifer Baxt....

Here it is...

There are many situations and occurrences in life that can test the strength of a family unit, including environmental factors, physical factors, mental factors, biological factors and social factors. It could be one of these factors, or a combination of two or more, that affects either one or two individuals within the family unit or the entire family unit as a whole; whatever it is that impacts the family, it can have a huge impact on the families overall mental health. Each individual will react to a high level of stress in their own way, but how they handle the stress can have a direct impact on the other members of their family.

When depression hits the family, everyone in the unit can be affected in a negative way. Millions of people throughout North America suffer from different types of depression; some of them suffer a lighter form of depression and with help they and their family are able to cope and work with it, while others suffer from more severe forms of depression that can cause a family unit to fall apart. When an individual develops depression, their family can often sense that something is off; that the individual is not quite the same person as they use to be, especially if the family is a tight-knit family. The signs might not be as obvious as soon for families that are not as close as others, but the signs soon become apparent in just about any family when a person comes down with deep depression. The other members in the family will react to the personal depression in different ways to try and get that person out of their emotional rut, but family is not always able to help. Depending on the depression that the person has and how they choose to deal with it, the family could be adversely affected and the unit can fall apart. Rifts begin to grow into chasms, drawing each family member away from the unit they once knew. In too many cases, the personal depression only becomes worse, especially if they choose to avoid help, self-medicate and then take out their frustrations on their family. It is unfortunate, but many family units that were once strong and close have fallen apart as a result of one or more family members becoming severely depressed.

There are many reasons why one or more members of a relatively happy family unit can become depressed, including stress, financial instability, a death in the immediate family and so on. Severe depression in relatively unhappy and dysfunctional families has a fairly obvious cause. Whatever the cause of the depression, a family does not have to be torn up over it. Even some families that think they are fine could possibly benefit greatly from a visit with a family therapist or counselor. It takes work to keep strong family ties within a unit, as well as to maintain trust, openness, and honesty; a family therapist or counselor can help a family to remain strong enough to weather through life as many trials. It doesn't always require a family to bring everyone into a family therapists office either. With online therapy, it is now possible for families to have sessions with an online family therapist in the comfort of their own home.

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For All The Female In The World....

2008-06-09T07:46:00.000-07:00

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Hope the best for all of you.

This time, i want to share something.
But this is just for the female.
Well, i mean just useful for female.
I found it while im browsing, as usual.

The title is....

12 Ways To Break "Man Code".

Sounds tricky...
right ???
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I found it www.davidwygant.com.

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When you first look at a man and a woman, you are able to notice the subtle differences between the sexes. It is when the two sexes communicate with each other, however, that the differences become truly glaring. This is because one is speaking "he talk" while the other is speaking "she talk."

Where this difference really becomes a problem is when you are in a relationship, and you need to know how to combine "he talk" and "she talk" into "we talk." So I feel like it's my job as a man and as a dating coach to help all the women learn how to understand "he talk" (or "man talk" as I like to call it), so that they won't need to hire a translator to understand what men are saying.

Women always want men to express their feelings. They always complain "Why can't he just say he loves me?" or "I wish he would just compliment me more."

What you need to pay attention to and realize, though, is that men do tell you they love you and compliment you . . . they just do it using their own language. Men, in fact, sometimes don't use words at all when they are communicating with you.

This will help you understand men's verbal and non-verbal language. Sometimes it's not what men say, but it's their actions that are significant. It is necessary for women to learn to interpret men's very roundabout way of communicating with them.

Here are 12 things that men say and do as a relationship progresses . . . and what they really mean:

PART I: "THE BEGINNING STAGES": These first 4 are all part of "New Relationship Man Code." If you pay attention to these at the beginning of a relationship, you will have a much better idea both of how well your relationship is going and, more importantly, how the man in this new relationship believes it is going.

1. A man tells you he needs his space. So what does this mean to you? It means that you need to ignore him and not call him. Men love the chase. By not calling him, he'll start calling you and wondering what happened. Also, by not making yourself too available, it keeps a man on his toes. This is important early in the dating process.

2. When a man calls you each night just to say "goodnight," this actually has several meanings (beyond that which may seem to be the obvious one) especially when a relationship is new. This is one thing men will do early in a relationship as a way of seeing if we still like you. You see, men are always looking at relationships with a "grass is always greener" eye, and calling you like this early in a relationship is a way to confirm that we are still interested in you. Thus, if a man continues to do this as the days pass, women should read this as a good sign of early interest in a relationship.

3. He offers to make you dinner at his house, and when you arrive you notice that in the middle of the table sits a vase with your favorite flowers in it (which he only heard you mention once in passing during a conversation you had on your first date). In man talk, what does this mean? By doing this, he's telling you that he pays attention to you, and he is interested in learning more about you and sharing more things with you. Men generally do not pay particular attention to the different varieties of flowers. If he not only payed attention to the name of a particular flower you like, but remembered it days later so that he could have them in his home for you to see, this is a very good sign of early interest. Most men couldn't tell you the difference between a rose and a rhodendrum ... Take this as a sign of definite interest in wanting to escalate a new relationship to a higher level.

4. You have plans to meet him at a place that was close to his house, and at the very last minute you were having car problems. So you call him and tell him that you are having car issues and can't make it. Not only does he offer to pick you up, but he insists on picking you up. This in man talk will tell you that he is interested in you as more than friends, because we don't go out of our way for just any woman. We only go out of our way for women in whom we are really interested.

PART II: "MIDDLE OF THE PROCESS": The next four examples of "Man Code" tend to occur after a relationship has moved past casual dating, has perhaps become exclusive, but has not necessarily become really serious. If you are unsure of where your relationship is headed during this period, the four "Man Codes" below may give you a lot of insight into whether your man sees your relationship headed toward something more serious.

5. After spending a few nights hanging out at his home watching movies, he looks at you and says "It would be nice to snuggle all night with you." What he's really telling you, is that he'd like to cook you breakfast in the morning and get to know you more. What he's also saying is that he'd like to take this relationship further. Contrary to popular belief, there are a lot of men out there who love to snuggle and connect with a woman emotionally. When a man says "snuggling," he really does mean snuggling.

6. He pays attention to details. A man tells you that he has a surprise for you on a Sunday. You're hoping and praying that it's not going to the football game with him. He tells you to be ready at 2:00 pm. He picks you up, and he takes you to this art gallery opening to which you've been dying to go. When a man pays attention to the details, it means that he's really interested in getting to know you, and really interested in sharing your interests and your passions.

7. The man you're dating calls you for a spontaneous lunch, or calls to say he's "in the neighborhood" and just wanted to see you to say "hello." When a man does this, he is telling you that he wanted to see you and is expressing his growing interest in you. As most women already know, men are very visual, and when we like a woman we enjoy getting a "visual fix" by finding a way to connect with you during a non-planned time. Men bond with women not only emotionally, but also visually. A man who is becoming more interested in a woman will start to do these random "pop ups" after the first month or so.

8. When a man calls you and says "I want you meet my friends on Friday night," this is big - especially early in a relationship. He's introducing you to his pack. It means that he thinks you are hot and sexy, and he wants to show you off to his friends.

PART III: "THE END PROCESS": These last four examples of "Man Code" relate to the point in your relationship where things are serious but you may be unsure whether your man is considering a future with you. These will help you decipher some of the things men do in this stage of a relationship

9. He tells you "I've cleaned today." What this means in man talk is "I spent the day doing something I dislike more than anything." You need to realize that when a man says this to you, he really likes you. To most men, cleaning the house is just about the WORST way he can spend a day.

10. He starts talking about how crazy all his single friends' lives are, and then he tells you that he doesn't miss it at all. What most women will think if they hear this, is that he misses those days. This is not true. He says this because he is looking for confirmation that you feel exactly the same way. He also wants to communicate that he's ready to take the relationship to the next level. This is an important turning point in a relationship from "just dating" to "getting more serious."

11. He teases you a lot about things like how clumsy you are or about how you put smiley faces in every one of your emails. What he's really telling you when he does this is that he really likes you a lot. Remember that men are just giant boys . . . we tease the ones we love and ignore the ones we don't. This is an indication that your guy is happy in this relationship.

12. Since you recently took him to your family's house for dinner, he can't stop talking about how much fun he had with your brother. What he means here is that he really likes your family, and wouldn't mind being a part of your family. In his mind, then, you and he are not only serious but he has started to think about whether he can see himself marrying you.

Once you understand the hidden language and actions of man talk, you'll become far more secure in your dating and relationships. So the next time you go over to your man's house and he looks at you and says "I cleaned today," you'll know that he really meant to say "I must really like you, because I can ignore my mess most of the time."

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Tips to Reduce Your Stress Levels !!

2008-06-09T07:37:00.000-07:00

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Tips to Reduce Your Stress Levels.

This article, written by Ewen Chia.

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Everyone has stress in their lives. If you are in a stressful job or are having a tough time in your personal life, your stress level is probably higher than most people. So do you know how to effectively deal with the stress in your life? Keep reading for some great tips on how to deal with stress.

Unresolved stress issues can affect you physically and mentally. Stress can lead to anxiety, depression and sometimes it can lead to thoughts of suicide. Therefore it is critical that you learn how to deal with the stress that life throws at you. If you are really having issues and don't feel that you can resolve them on your own, talk to your doctor or a psychiatrist. The reason that I mention these two professionals instead of a therapist is that they are able to prescribe medications if you need it. Don't think of yourself as crazy. If the doctor suggests that you take an anti anxiety medication, try it. You may be surprised at the results.

Now for ways to deal with day to day stress on your own. First of all, stop stressing out over situations that you cannot control. For example, you can't control the weather and your can't control what your co-workers think and do. Let these things go and pick your stressors wisely.

Learn meditation techniques to help get rid of stress and help you think more clearly. Stretching exercises and a few minutes of deep meditation will do wonders for your stress level. When you are able to take a few minutes to relax, you will be able to solve critical problems easier.

If you find yourself in a particular stressful situation that is going nowhere but downhill, walk away. That's right, excuse yourself and walk away from the situation for a few minutes. Take a walk outside in the fresh air. This can help clear your head and allow you to think more clearly. If you are leading a meeting, suggest that everyone take a break and go for a walk. Clearing your head for a few minutes will allow you to come back to a stressful situation relaxed and able to solve problems more effectively.

Keep a stress ball on your desk or carry it with you at all times. If is better to squeeze the living daylights out of a stress ball than to choke the life out of a co-worker. A stress ball will allow you to have something to direct your frustration and stress to.

Use these tips to reduce your daily stress levels. It is also important that you eat right, get plenty of exercise and do your best to get a good night's sleep. The healthier you are, the better you will be at dealing with stress.

The healthier you are, the better you will be at dealing with stress.
The last sentence is cool, right ??

Hope this blog will help you to improve your life.
Will help you to reduce your stress level.
Thanks to Ewen for her advice.

Well, that's enough from me.
See ya !!

Why People Take Things Out On YOU ??

2008-06-09T07:24:00.001-07:00

Heeeellllllllllllooooooooooooooooooowwwwwwwwwwwwwwww..........

Welcome...

Once again, welcome to my blog....
this time...
i want to show you again, some good things that i found while i'm browsing...

the title is...

Why People Take Things Out On YOU ??

The author is...
Michael J.Stenger....

For me, what did he wrote is very interesting...
wanna find out ??

Ever feel like you're the center point of all the frustration in your family or with friends, where everything is directed towards you? We all get into this predicament at one time or another, it's life. There's key points that cause this and for very good reasons too:

1. You're offering change, maybe not even offering advice and too many of your family members or friends are afraid to go out of their "comfort" zone so they rebel against you. They basically don't like change!!

2. They don't like that you are doing better mentally, physically, and in reality. Why this is is because you are a big part of their life or have an impact and sometimes jealousy settles in. It happens around the ones we love or who has an impact on us.

3. You are in actuality causing the problem by either getting in the middle of things when not needed or being negative towards those friends or family members.

I expect that you now have a more, deeper understanding of this crazy, yet ridiculous mood towards you. You could either be causing it or preventing it to the best of your ability. If you have gone through the checklist and found that you truthfully are not causing this problem, by all means DO NOT CHANGE INTO WHAT THEY WANT!!

Never, EVER sacrifice your mood and happiness for a reason such as succumbing to their beliefs and livng below your potential, no matter what the circumstances. If you do that, you're no better off than 90% of the population and always will be a statistic. Do your best and stay as nuetral as possible when these situations arise.

In all reality, it's probably not you that needs to change, it's THEM. No matter how hard you try, they are the only ones that can change themselves. Don't offer advice when not asked of you and accept the facts that they will either change or not.

Well, interesting, right ?

Michael said, change yourself isn't gonna work. The one who should change is THEM.

From my own description, what did Michael said is right. But sometimes, you're the one who should change. Because it's weird if you're the center point of frustation, but you didn't do something wrong.

That's from me. How about you ??

Share your comment if you want.

Well, this is from me.

See you in my next blog !!

8 Of The Worst Things To Say To Someone Who Is Crying !!

2008-06-09T04:45:00.001-07:00

Once again, welcome to my blog !!
This time, i want to share about another interesting thing that i found.

It's about....

8 Of The Worst Things To Say To Someone Who Is Crying !!!

Hahaha, cool isn't it ?

It's authored by Virginia J.Duffy PhD NP-Psychiatry.

Wanna find out more?
Here you go !!

When people try to comfort others who are upset and crying they usually mean well. However sometimes the things they say not only don't help, they may actually make the situation worse.Here are some of the worst things someone can say when attempting to comfort another. You will also find variations on the comment that are common, what the message is you are sending the crier, and what their reactions you might see. I hope this helps you to know what to avoid saying, and how to "Say the Right Thing."

1."I know just how you feel, when this happened to me blah, blah, blah."

Variations on this theme

My friend went through the same thing.

Everyone goes through this at one time in his or her life.

What the person crying is hearing

They are not special.

This is no big deal.

Possible reactions of the person crying

Feeling ignored, brushed off.

Attempts to hide feelings

Anger

2. "Everything will be ok."

Variations on this theme

You will get over this.

It's not as bad as you think

What the person crying is hearing

Don't worry

You're exaggerating

It's not such a big thing

Possible reactions of the person crying

Feeling Patronized

Making light of the problems

Anger

3. "It's time to move forward.

Variations on this theme:

You will get through this

Just forget it

Don't think about it

What the person crying is hearing

They should be over it by now

They are taking too long to heal

Their crying is going on too long

Possible reactions of the person crying

Feels criticized

Self doubt

Feels this as an attack on self-esteem

Anger

4."You will feel better soon."

Variations on this theme

You will be ok.

It will be over soon

You will be fine

What the person crying is hearing

It's not so bad

You are taking this too seriously

There is nothing to cry about

Possible reactions of the person crying

Feeling patronized

Anger

Not believing you

5. "Please don't cry you are making yourself more upset."

Variations on this theme

Try to get a hold of yourself

Don't get so upset

You will make yourself sick

You should calm down

What the person crying is hearing

Crying is bad

They are out of control

They are at risk of loosing control

Possible reactions of the person crying

Attempts to control crying that don't work

Worry that they are overreacting

Fear for themselves

Anger at you

6. Any attempts to change the subject

Variations on this theme

Anything that ignores what the person crying is saying

What the person crying is hearing

You don't want to listen

Crying is unacceptable

They shouldn't talk about upsetting things

Possible reactions of the person crying

Attempts to control crying that don't work

Worry that they are overreacting

Fear for themselves

Embarrassment

Anger at you

7. How about if I make you a cup of tea (coffee etc)

Variations on this theme

Can I get you something

You should rest

What the person crying is hearing

You don't them to continue talking

Crying is unacceptable

This is a minor situation

Possible reactions of the person crying

Feels ignored or brushed off

Shut down, stop talking

Anger at you

8. Do you want me to call your therapist, priest etc

Variations on this theme

"You need to talk to your therapist about this.

" Taking the person to the hospital for a crisis appointment

Calling another person in to talk to the person

What the person crying is hearing

They are so upset you need a professional

You are not interested

You are unable to deal with this (or don't want to)

They are sick or weak

They are out of control

Possible reactions of the person crying

Attempts to quiet self that don't work

Worry that they are sick

Anger at you

As you can see, offering clichÃ©s like the examples given above will not help the situation or the distressed person. In fact they often make things worse. The person crying may become angry or totally shut down. Most of these attempts listed signify the discomfort of the person trying to help.

Becoming comfortable with someone who is crying, allowing the expression of feelings, and using the powerful tool of empathy are your best bets; silence also works. At all costs, avoid cliches.

Cool, isn't it ?

At least i know what should i do when my girlfriend is crying...

heheheh.....

Well, that's all from me. See you in my next blog !!

Use Your Subconscious Mind To Your Advantage !!

2008-06-09T04:33:00.000-07:00

Hello...
Once again, welcome to my blog.

Once upon a time...
while im browsing in the internet...
i found some cool article....
by Liza Othman.....

It's about USE YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS MIND TO YOUR ADVANTAGE.

Wanna know more?
Keep reading !!

Talking to the Subconscious Mind

Intelligent affirmation (suggestion) - thinking intelligently and strongly of the thing desired, soon becomes the predominant thought in the subconscious mind. This predominant thought becomes the pattern or blueprint which in time is materialized - inwardly and objectively - into the reality of the picture or blueprint of the predominating thought. In other words, whatever we think of oftenest and most strongly, we get. To have health and keep it, health must become a predominating thought. The way to put the subconscious mind to work, is to work on a predominant thought, and thus materialize the thing desired by affirmations, either silently or orally by one's self or in the company of others.

People who do not understand the law of the subconscious mind sometimes get but slight results from affirmations because they think that positive thoughts for health, such as "I am well, whole and complete" are a lie. But, as I say, one does not always understand, the law of the subconscious. It does not reason. It does not argue. It hangs tenaciously to the thought suggested to it and when you give a positive formula for health, you are giving the most direct command to the subconscious mind to get busy on your blueprint of health. You thus become your own health architect to build strength, life, vitality and health into every cell of your being.

Webster's dictionary says that a lie is "a criminal falsehood, an intentional violation of the truth." When you take a positive suggestion or formula for health, you are suggesting that the spirit within the great, "I am", is well, whole and complete, which is absolutely correct. The spirit of man does not become sick. It is his body. We, therefore, talk directly, forcibly and positively to this well spirit (the subconscious mind) which in turn communicates the health thought to every cell of the body. This is itself intelligence which reacts and is made by the thought which the subconscious mind sends to it.

Changing the Complex

The very act of bringing to the light of consciousness the repressed ideas or the implanted obsession, when the patient's mind is unkinked, gives him an insight into the meaning of his trouble. We let him see new points of view, we introduce fresh ideas and feelings into his complexes. In short, we reimpregnate and thus reeducate the subconscious mind. This in itself has wonderful therapeutic value as will be remembered if you recall how the mind is inextricably interwoven with the conscious and the subconscious and how the subconscious mind controls the functionings of all of the organs and senses of the body.

It is apparent on the face of the matter that the mental attitude of patients suffering from any kind of disease which has been produced by wrong thinking, must be changed, new groups of complexes must be formed and this is done almost automatically when we once discover what caused the sickness.

The patient then sees life from another plane; he regards his condition in a new light and his sickness from another angle and by taking counter suggestions - opposite thoughts - new associations and groups of complexes are called into play and the process of rehabilitation and health restoration is a simple, scientific and workable hypothesis.

Bear in mind that the subconscious mind will do anything it is given to do. It will recharge the body with health, vigor, strength - make one all over - as well as alter one's attitude toward life entirely. The subconscious mind will change failure into success, despondency into joy, depression into happiness, futility into achievement; hence the injunction Paul gives us in Philippians 4:8 is truly psychological.

Finally, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

This, in a word, is psychology. To think only of good things until the subconscious mind is obsessed with the good and so crowds out the bad.

Think of those things until the habit of thought has been changed.

"Suggestion controls the world, and 'All things are ready, if our minds be so.' "

Thought and Brain Formation

Professor Elmer Gates of Washington has demonstrated this physiologically in his studies of brain formation. He tells us that every thought produces a slight molecular change in the substance of the brain, and the repetition of the same sort of thought causes a repetition of the same molecular action until at last a veritable channel is formed in the brain substance, which can only be eradicated by a reverse process of thought.

In this way "grooves of thought" are very literal things, and when once established the vibrations of the cosmic currents flow automatically through them and thus react upon the mind by a process the reverse of that by which our voluntary and intentional indrawing from the invisible is affected. In this way are formed what we call "habits," and hence the importance of controlling our thinking and guarding it against undesirable ideas.

But on the other hand this reactionary process may be used to confirm good and life-giving modes of thought as Paul pointed out above so that by a knowledge of its laws we may enlist even the physical body itself in the building up of that perfectly whole personality, the attainment of which is the aim and object of our studies.

So by taking a thought the opposite to the one or more which has caused our sickness we not only supercede the old with the new (open the "little trap door" to let out the old thought) and by affirmations (suggestions) but we by these affirmations make new grooves of thought, forming new thought habits, thought habits of health, and then health we have.

Interesting, right?
Your subconscious mind can really give you something unpredictable.
That's from me.
If you got something to share, leave your comment, ok?
See you in my next blog !!

Selfish ? Is it bad ?

2008-06-09T04:04:00.000-07:00

Hello, welcome to my sixth blog.
Hope all of you enjoy reading my blog.

This time, i want to talk about selfishness.
But first, i found some cool article about selfish in the internet.
Let's read it first.

What's So Bad About Being Selfish?

by Michael J. Hurd (September 23, 1999)

Most of us assume that selfishness is both wrong and unhealthy. But is this true?

Selfishness means acting in one's rational self-interest. Contrary to popular opinion, all healthy individuals are selfish. Choosing to pursue the career of your choice is selfish. Choosing to have children--or not to have children--is selfish. Insisting on freedom and individual rights, rather than living under a dictatorship, is selfish. Indeed, even ordinary behaviors such as breathing, eating and avoiding an oncoming car when crossing the street are selfish acts. Without selfishness, none o f us would survive the day--much less a lifetime.

Selfishness does not mean self-destructive behavior. In other words, a car thief is not selfish. He has to run from the law constantly, something most car owners never have to do. Even if he escapes the law, he will not experience as much pleasure from possessing the car as would an honest person.

Lying to your spouse, or any loved one, is not selfish. The psychological stress of trying to "live the lie" of an extramarital affair--or any major secret--is enormous. A selfish person understands that honesty is the best policy and the least painful, in the long run.

The opposite of selfishness is self-sacrifice. Self-sacrifice means giving up a greater value for a lesser value. Consider the example of a battered wife, who is married to an alcoholic husband who refuses to seek help. She stays with him for reasons o f "security" and "family stability." Yet in the process she sacrifices her self-esteem and physical safety (greater values) to the irrational whims of her husband (lesser values).

Consider the example of the hard-working student who allows a friend to copy his answers on an examination. The student is sacrificing both his integrity and his efforts (greater values) to the laziness and low self-esteem of his "friend" (le sser values).

Or, consider the envious individual who tries to get you to feel guilty for your hard-earned success. "You are lucky to have done so well," the envious person says. "Now you have a duty to share some of your success with others." Ce rtainly, a selfish person wants to share his success with those he genuinely cares about--his family, friends, or children (greater values). But why should he make sacrifices to individuals he does not know or care about (lesser values)?

Selfish individuals give to charity--if and when they choose. A selfish person is not "stingy." He simply values the use of his own judgment in making decisions about how to spend his money, and when to give it away.

Most of us assume that some selfishness is healthy, but "too much" selfishness will lead to loneliness and despair. This idea rests on an incorrect definition of selfishness. Selfishness means acting in one's rational self-interest. By " rational" I mean that one can logically prove that an action is in one's self-interest--in the long run as well as the short run.

For instance, Mr. Jones might think that it is in his self-interest to cheat on his wife, in the short run. But if he considers the long-term, he will understand that he loses her either way by lying to her. If he really loves his wife, he will feel te rrible if he lies to her. If he no longer loves his wife, it is senseless to continue living with her and conducting an affair in secret. A selfish individual does not like to lie, because he sees that it does not bring him long-term happiness.

Most of us assume that we cannot be both selfish and kind to others. This is simply not true. If a mother loves her son, it makes her happy to give up some of her money to buy him a bicycle. It is not a sacrifice--it is a supremely selfish act. Both mother and son benefit.

Similarly, the owner of a popular restaurant is not dutifully "serving the public." He provides good food and a nice atmosphere so that he can make a profit and beat the competition. Both owner and diners benefit.

A physician does not provide quality treatment for altruistic reasons. He provides it because he is financially and emotionally rewarded for being competent and caring. Otherwise, he quite appropriately loses his patients. Both patient and doctor benef it from selfishness.

In a rational society, selfishness is encouraged. A rational society is one where individuals are left free to pursue their self-interest. In the process, everyone benefits. Rational selfishness means acting in your self-interest--and accepting responsibility for determining what truly serves your long-term interest. It is a nice alternative to a life filled with duty, drudgery and disillusionment.

We live in a world which does not even recognize the option of rational selfishness. We are taught, from childhood, that we must be either self-sacrificing or thoughtlessly "selfish."

I maintain that this is a false alternative. Rational selfishness, if practiced consistently, is the means of living both a moral and psychologically healthy life. If you choose to recognize this alternative, such a life can be yours.

(From :http://www.capmag.com/article.asp?ID=145)

Interesting, isn't it ?
If you have your own opinion about selfishness, share it with me, ok ??
See you in my next blog !!

I Wanna Be Respected !!

2008-06-09T03:34:00.000-07:00

Hey, what's up ?
welcome to my fifth blog.

This time, i want to share my minds about respect.

Respect?
What is it ?
Respect is hard to describe, but we just say that respect is a feeling to be trusted and to be regarded.

Respect is important, in any parts of your life.
Let's take some example.
You're a leader in your group.
You make some order to your teammate, and they didn't do what have you said.
What did they do that ??
Because they don't respect you as a leader.

How can i be respected ?
Well, the main point is, you must be a good person, for other people.
If they like you, you will be respected.
When your friends have a problem, go help them.
If your friend need someone to share, be the one who will hear what he/she want to say.
Just try to understand, make them feel comfort when they with you.
Always give them your lending hand, and they will respect you.

If you have already earned your respect, then what should you do is try not to lose your respect.
Respect is easier to lose than to obtain.
Respect can be lost in an instant one word, one decision or one action.
People can spend their whole lives thinking of ways to earn respect, but unless they do something they will never get it.

Keep it in your mind.
If you want to be a leader, then you MUST be a respected person.
With respect, you can lead other people, because you're a person they trust and they regard you.

That's it from me today.
Well, hope this will help you to be a better person.
See you in my next blog !!!

Speaking in public ? Why not !!

2008-06-08T03:29:00.000-07:00

Hellooooooo.........
Welcome to my officially fourth post....

This time, the topic is "Speaking in public" !!!

Speaking in public.
Well, it's easy.
Why did i say it was easy?
because you just need to speak.
That's easy, right?

Although it was easy, but many people can't do it.
Why?
Because they didn't feel confident enough to speak in public.
Nervous always comes first.
And when you get nervous, you can't talk well, you forget what do you want to say, and etc.
It's normal anyway.
But you can handle your nervous if you want.
And there is a few way to decrease it.
Wanna know the key?
Practice!!!

First, practice in front of your mirror.
Sometimes you'll feel you like an idiot, but just keep it up.
It will make you better, because you can train to control yourself not to laugh, you can train your concentration, and of course you can train your memory if you want to speech without text.

Second, practice in front of your own family.
In front of your wife/husband, brother, sister, your mom and dad, your children, your neighbour, or everyone else you like.
Just don't ever think that you're doing a stupid thing.
This is the main point;
you're training to talk in front of many people.
In public.

Just like i said before, practice.
It will always make you better.
Nervous come when you feeling unconfident.
To make you confident, you must practice.
You must make sure that you understand enough about the topic, and then practice.
When you practice, try to make yourself comfortable.
Just think that you're talking to your friend, someone who will always hear what do you want to say until it ends.
Make that as a suggestion in your mind.

Well, that's enough from me.
Hope it will help you in the future.
See you in my next blog !!

Jealousy, what is it ?

2008-06-08T03:26:00.000-07:00

Welcome...
hello....

In this blog...
I want to share about something, that closely related to our main topic, be a better person....

It's about....
Jealousy!!

Well, from my own description, jealousy is very normal. Everyone can feel it. As long as you normal.
Hehehehe....

Jealousy is a suggestion, in your mind.
Suggestion ??
Yes, i say so because it happen, when someone you love, isn't responding in the way you want.
Example, your mother, looks really-really care about your sister or your brother.
And then your heart say, "Mother looks really care to my sister..."
In other side, you can positively think about your brother.
"Maybe, there is a thing that my brother can't do alone. Because he can't do it alone, he ask my mother to help."

Well, if that's the way you think, good...
but, you can't deny that your heart is begging for your mother attention.

Jealousy is a bit different when it comes to relationship with your partner.
When your partner isn't care about you anymore, and she/he act a little different when in your side, there is some feeling that you can't describe in your heart.
Your heart is repeatedly ask, why happen to her/him?
Your heart is full of anger, desire to ask, confuse with your own mind, and many opinion about what happen is running like a big tsunami wave in your mind.

Just like i say, it's normal.
It's a feeling when you lose something that you never want to lose, even it's just about 1 second.
Many relationship, broken just because they can't control their jealousy.
Can't control your own jealousy, it means you can't control you emotion.
Looks like what i said is really chaotic, but that's the fact.

I have a friend, her name is Adel, 22 years old.
She have a real problem with his boyfriend.
Lets call the boyfriend with "B".
Her boyfriend can't control his jealousy.
Adel have so many friends. Her boyfriend can't accept if Adel attention divided to her friends when B is sitting in Adel side.
B said that he can't accept it because he love Adel so much.
But Adel think that B is so selfish, and childish.
It happen very often.
After so many debate about their main problem....
They decided to end their relation.

That's just one example about how jealousy can affect your relation.
If B can think clearly enough, without obeying his emotion, their relationship can live longer.

Well, that's all from me about jealousy.
Hope you like it!!

How to be a trustworthy person?

2008-06-08T03:22:00.000-07:00

Hello......

This time i want to talk about:

How to be a trustworthy person.

Trust.
Trust means that you feel that the person is honest and will not lie, cheat or steal from you.
It also means that you feel that person is reliable.
Trust is important.
Just like if you want to get higher career, you must make your boss trust you, right?

The same thing happen when you want to make your relationship better.
You, must be a trustworthy person for your partner.
Well, it looks simple.
But it's REALLY hard to make someone trust you.

It's harder to defend it, to hold it than take it.
That is the characteristic of trust.
When you make someone disappointed, it's hard to make he/she trust you again.

When you lie, when steal or cheat behind them, that's just a few thing that can make them think that you're a person that they can't trust anymore.
Well, not really like that actually.
But doing something that make your image bad, is not a good thing if you want to prove that you're a trustworthy person.

In relationship, the feeling of trust is very important.
You can't make your partner feel safe or make he/she feel comfortable if you're not a trustworthy person for them.
It also affect on how long your relationship is.

If she/he is lying on you, can you forgive him/her?
Well maybe yes, if this is the first time.
But what if she/he always do that, never can make you feel trust them?

Being trustworthy shows good characters.
If you are caught lying or deceiving people, they will consider you an untrustworthy character. It is then very easy for that bad reputation to spread. Once others consider a person as untrustworthy, they will tend to be cautious in dealing with that person or may avoid him or her all together.
That is soo annoying. Soo bad fella.
If no one want stay beside you, all the people you know avoiding you, that's just so bad.
You won't have some friends to share your story.
No one will be sit in your side, and make you laughing out loud.
No one will ever care about you when you sick or sad.

You can't make a relationship if you're not a trustworthy person. Your girl/boyfriend will end your relationship just because you can't show the that she/he good character wants.

Being trustworthy is an admirable character trait. It is being honest, reliable and responsible. Others will respect you more and want to continue relationships and dealing with you. Your girl/boyfriend will never leave you, because they feel comfortable with you.

That's the conclusion about being trustworthy.
Let's show it to everyone, that we can be trusted!!

First post....

2008-06-08T03:13:00.000-07:00

Hello....
welcome to my blog....

this is my first post....

i made up this blog, to make everyone who read my blog will become a better person...

for someone they love...
for the people they care...
and of course, for themselves....

i will share all of my experience, and some of my friends stories....
to make sure you got what im saying with this blog....

and of course, if you read this and want to share something in your mind, just say it...
maybe some critics for my blog or some idea to make my blog better....

so, let's get started....